I've had an interesting week speaking with older women who have divorced and here are the lessons I've gleaned from those conversations:
-dont confuse pity for love
-pay attention to the red flags
-listen to your initial gut feeling about the person
-talk about money explicitly, no assumptions
-watch the actions, don't listen to words
My own lessons thus far:
-talk about anger, watch how he handles it
-communication, how are emotions discussed (or lack of)
-do we want the same things
Relationships are hard. All relationships, not just romantic ones. Hopefully the more I focus on the making the difficult relationships in my life better, the easier other ones will come. I'm in a place where I'm really trying to work on issues. I've seen a lot of denial and I'm choosing to deal instead of deny or run away, which is my go to.
